Recovering Alumni

Your Stories

I’ve got 2 new stories set to publish over the next week or so. Just a reminder that if you’d like to share your story, you can contact me at recoveringalumni at hotmail dot com. Your name will not be used and you do not have to give any identifying details (unless you want to). […]

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Why Are the Videos Gone?

In response to my posts this week critiquing Dave Hasz’s leadership and Ron Luce’s teaching, Teen Mania decided to take down all their videos. That seems like a really odd response to me. If Teen Mania stands behind their teachings and has nothing to hide, why did they take down the videos? They had several options: 1) They

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ESOAL, Judgement and the Sin of Personal Boundaries

UPDATE: Teen Mania took down this video within hours of this post. Commenter Ben helped me get it back up via YouTube. Thanks, Ben! In this ESOAL facilitation training video, there is a very revealing exchange during the Q & A time. Because I have no doubt they will take this video down as soon

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The Myth of Matthew 18 Confrontation

One of the greatest objections to this blog is that I am not following the Bible’s prescription for confrontation as laid out in Matthew 18:5. “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone…” To address this important issue, I’d like to quote an extended passage from

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Friday Links

For your weekend reading pleasure, here are some words of truth I’ve enjoyed this week: 1) “Our fundamental lack, is the lack of seeing the love of God” 2) “How could God love me when I doing nothing for Him?” If you don’t sense God’s love and acceptance when you do nothing . . .

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Grace for Spiritual Abusers

  As I’ve mentioned here before, I like to believe that Dave Hasz and the rest of the Honor Academy staff have good intentions. Unfortunately, their sincerity does not negate the damage they have done. The book Soul Repair has this to say about spiritual abusers: Spiritual abusers usually are not conscious of what they

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Why Recovery is So Hard

I recently came across this great interview with Jeff VanVonderen, author of “The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse.” Towards the end of the interview, he discusses the recovery process. I’ve found this example to be very true in my life. This especially applies to those who have experienced rejection or disapproval from the HA staff

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