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What is with this fascination with military imagery and training? I really don’t get it. Does Jesus reflect this in his ministry? The only time Jesus ever got confrontational was with the Pharisees. He didn’t rail on and on about the evils of his day. He didn’t villify people. There are so few references to
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More firsthand accounts of disturbing experiences at ESOAL written by interns. Here are a few “highlights” from a blog post written by an intern. Read the whole thing here. (2021 Update: Blog has since gone down.) Picture yourself in a concentration camp and you’ll get a taste of what I experienced. We were nothing, nobodies, lesser
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That’s pretty much what I think of every time I hear about ESOAL. For those of you who are uninitiated, ESOAL stands for Emotionally Stretching Opportunity of a Lifetime. The interns call it “torture camp” for short. In reality, it should probably be called EABTNG or Emotionally Abusive Brainwashing and Torture in the Name of
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Sorry for the long hiatus in posting. I went on summer vacation and business has been booming ever since I got back. Of course, it was also nice to go a stretch without having to think about and deal with my Teen Mania issues. Stay tuned and I will be attempting to cover 2 very
This is part 3 in the Grieving Series. Part I is here and Part II is here. There were several factors that contributed to my depression. Of course, there is the normal depression associated with the grieving process – grieving the losses I experienced at the Honor Academy. But, for me, there were also some other factors that
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Molly over at Adventures in Mercy had a great post today.. “Jesus didn’t lace his relationships with expectations and he refused to be trapped when others sought to put expectations on him. He disappointed Mary and Martha by delaying his trip to Bethany when they begged him to come and heal their brother, Lazarus. He didn’t tell people all
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When I was an intern, the topics of legalism and performance came up quite a bit. In that environment, it was always a struggle to know where the line was. Now I see that although Ron Luce or Dave Hasz talk about grace and trust in Jesus, the overwhelming attitude presented to the interns is
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These are just some of the things I’ve been called for bringing the serious problems of Teen Mania and the Honor Academy into the light. In fact, I’m not bitter. I generally give very little thought to Teen Mania in my regular, daily life. But after talking with so many other people who have gone
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According to Wikipedia Ron Luce has both a bachelors and masters degree in psychology. Now, I have absolutely no training in that field (although I’ve been to my fair share of counseling because of Teen Mania’s influence) but why would he name his ministry Teen Mania? Mania is not a desirable psychological condition, and as
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Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant always honorable, and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all adhere to a strict code of honor. Mark 10: 43-45 (re-mix)
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It is a devastating thing to feel that God has failed you. That the promises you trusted Him to keep turned to ashes in front of your eyes. That the prayers you so desperately prayed go unanswered. That the purpose, destiny, calling, whatever – hasn’t come to pass. When many of the things I was
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One of the more cruel abuses of the Honor Academy is blaming the victim. If you are depressed, sick, can’t seem to feel God’s presence, or any other hard situation – it’s usually because you don’t have enough faith, aren’t seeking God enough or you are in sin. Head on over to itunes and check
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Copied from Spotlight Ministries: Do you feel that no matter how hard you try, the ‘good deeds’ you perform for your group are never quite enough? As a result of this do you often feel plagued with feelings of guilt? What are you motivated by? Is it genuine love for God and the group etc.,
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I had to borrow this one straight from Alan Knox: Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual trained should restore him in a spirit of gentleness superiority. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted that person, because he is likely to fail again. (Galatians 6:1 re-mix)
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I’d like to talk about one of the comments this blog received this week: And at the same time I did have plenty of experiences where people served me at TM and I was able to serve them. I remember one specific instance actual “foot washing” went on and in fact, I just posted a
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The first sign of spiritual abuse is control-oriented leadership. Let’s talk about how this trait plays out at the Honor Academy. Here are some of Dave Hasz’s own comments to illustrate. Click on the statement to see the source link: Question from an Intern: “Should you absolutely submit to your superiors even if you disagree
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I also found this list of abusive symptoms rather intriguing: Signs of an abusive church (edited for length). 1) Abusive church leaders in abusive churches are into power and control. Enroth writes, “The spiritual autocrat, the religious dictator, attempts to compel subordination; the true Christian leader can legitimately only elicit fellowership.” Within a church context
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In his book, Churches That Abuse, Ronald Enroth points out that spiritual abuse can often be found in churches that are doctrinally sound, conservatively Christian, thoroughly Biblical, and zealously maintaining the fundamentals of the Faith. It’s a myth to think that just because an organization as fundamental or evangelical beliefs, that they are safe. He goes
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All our righteous acts are like filthy rags what make us perfect; we all shrivel up like a leaf,and like the wind our sins sweep us away form a team of spiritually elite leadership who can never fail. Isaiah 64:6b (remix)
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Recovery from spiritual abuse is a long road. Experiencing betrayal by someone you trusted spiritually is an agonizing thing. The last place you expect to be wounded is in the Body of Christ. The emotions are intense and brutal: confusion, hopelessness, hurt, abandonment, depression, despair, and suicidal thoughts are just some of the things we’ve
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In 2 posts dated Jan 28 and Jan 30, 2008, Dave Hasz started this dialogue on his blog (which has since gone down): In other words if you were going to let someone speak into your life about your spiritual condition or your pursuit of God what would “qualify” or “disqualify” them from speaking. This could get
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John 13: 3-5 Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under his power, and that he had come from God and was returning to God; so he got up from the meal, took off his outer clothing, and wrapped a towel around his waist. After that, he poured water into a basin and began
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This quote is taken from the blog of Dave Hasz from his post on Feb. 27, 2006 (Blog has since gone down) Tonight in the Honor Academy I am going to share a message out of Hebrews and tell the interns how delighted God is over them. They are so Godly, and filled with Faith, I
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According to the handbook, there are 4 Honor Academy pillars. They are: VisionDiscplineWisdomLeadership I would certainly agree that these are emphasized throughout the year. However, when its all said and done, you are left with something very different. I submit to you that the actual pillars of the Honor Academy are: FearGuiltShameArrogance How can I
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